Here are this week’s Life Pro Tips.
1. Keep inviting that friend who always says no.
If you have a friend or coworker who you have invited to do things with you or your group of friends and they continually decline, don’t stop inviting them unless they specifically tell you not to invite them anymore. Some folks really would like to be included but really do have other obligations, or maybe they’re just super shy and need to be invited several times before they feel like they can work up the courage to go. Or perhaps they are battling depression. Don’t give up on that person. You may be just the person they need to get them out of their shell or to eventually become the kind of friend that helps them see the good in life and want to continue going on living. Be awesome!
2. Thinking of moving? Google “military BAH” for an idea of how much it costs to live somewhere.
One of the things the military does very well is to calculate the cost of living in areas of the US. This is heavily researched so the government doesn’t over or underpay servicemembers. If you’re thinking of moving to a new area and are curious how much it costs for rent & utilities, just google military Basic Allowance for Housing (BAH) and you’ll see how much the military pays servicemembers to live there!
3. If you feel that conflict is emerging, seize any opportunity to change the form of communication (e.g. switch from e-mail to a phone call).
Many conflicts can be nipped in the bud by changing the form of communication. The most obvious example is switching from written communication to paying a visit (or calling on the phone), or the other way around: leaving a conversation that doesn’t lead anywhere and instead write a text message or an e-mail where you explain your position.
The pause gives you (and the counterpart) a chance to calm down, in case either of you is worked up.
It might give you a new approach to whatever the difference of opinion is about since the new form of communication demands that you rethink it.
When writing emails/texting, many people accidentally come across as either blunt or sarcastic (especially if there’s a difference of opinion going on). If that’s how you interpret the other person, speaking to them might dispel your concerns.