Here are 5 things you should know.
1. “Trauma bonding” doesn’t mean bonding over shared trauma.
A lot of people use the term “trauma bonding” to mean a bond shared by two (or more) people bonding over shared trauma, or becoming close by talking about trauma together. While this makes intuitive sense, the term actually refers to the bond between an abused person and their abuser.
When someone is abused, they may have a psychological trauma response that results in a trauma bond. This is usually caused by an unhealthy attachment, the victim feeling dependent on the abuser, feeling sympathy for the abuser, or the cycle of abuse and positive reinforcement (“I’m sorry, I won’t do it again, you know I love you, right?”).
This typically manifests as the victim excusing/justifying the abuser’s behaviour, isolating themselves to hide the abuse from outsiders, maintaining hope that the relationship/the abuser’s behaviour will improve, and feeling unable or unwilling to leave despite detriments to the victim’s mental/physical health and wellbeing. Victims also may equate abuse with love and not recognise abusive behaviours as abuse (because “they still love me” or “they’re doing it because they care”).
Many victims of abuse who form a trauma bond with their abuser find it particularly hard to leave the relationship/remove the abuser from their life, can suffer intense distress when they do leave, and are more likely than non-trauma-bonded victims to return to their abuser.
Source: Verywellmind.com link
2. A majority of cars in the US made since 2002 have a glow-in-the-dark handle that opens the trunk and is located inside of the trunk.
Source: https://www.ecfr.gov/current/title-49/subtitle-B/chapter-V/part-571/subpart-B/section-571.401
3. If sending a greeting card, printed photos, or a child’s artwork, include the date somewhere on the piece.
Many people hold on to sentimental items for years after they were received. Including dates helps a lot with recall years later. On photos, including names may also be helpful.
4. Platinum has had a lower price than Gold since 2015.
When shopping for jewelry, I’ve noticed that Platinum jewelry is still priced higher than the same piece in Gold despite the relative deflation of Platinum’s price vs Gold.
5. There’s a browser extension called Unhook, which removes every feature from YouTube that you feel distracts you from your productivity.
Many times you watch a YouTube video to do something productive, like a tutorial or an educational video. But then there’s the list of Recommended Videos on the right side of the video with a lot of videos that seem more fun than whatever you’re doing (since they’re recommended by the YouTube algorithm itself). So this extension allows you to remove that list altogether, along with anything else you think you waste too much time on (comments, home feed, mixes etc). It can also be useful if you want to reduce your screen time.
Here’s the link for Chrome and Chromium based browsers (Edge, Opera etc), and here’s the one for Firefox.
