11. You become the people you surround yourself with.
12. I cannot overstate how much dressing well and being well groomed will impact your life. It’ll drop the difficulty by two or three levels. No joke. People will treat you VASTLY differently. The opposite is also true.
13. Compliment your children with “you are a hard worker” and not “you’re smart”. Studies show that kids who think they’re hard workers outperform kids who think they’re smart.
14. Ask questions, about everything. Ask people about themselves. Be open about stuff you don’t understand, and ask questions about that. When you forget someone’s name, own up to it and just ask them.
15. To seem charming, all you have to do a lot of the time is to be an engaged listener.
You don’t need an amazing sense of humor, to be able to lay on the compliments or regale people with stories. Just listen to other people in a way that shows you are interested and not only waiting for your turn to talk – make eye contact, don’t interrupt them, don’t turn the conversation to be about you, ask good questions.
16. As an adult, you can tell almost any kid who is running to stop running and they will.
17. Underpromise and Overperform. Say you’ll achieve less than you think you will and then do more and everyone will be impressed (works well at a job).
18. Not a cheat code, but an Easter egg:
If you ask someone if they know all the words to “I’m a little teapot” around 80% of the people you ask will start singing it.
Half of those will do the gestures.
19. The correct response to any compliment is “Thank you.” You can then follow it up with a comment if you’d like to continue the conversation. If someone likes your dress? “Thank you, it has pockets!” If someone compliments your art? “Thank you, I’ve been practicing.” If someone asks if you’re a professional singer because you have a good singing voice? “Thank you, I just sing for fun.”
Not only does it make you seem confident and self-assured, it tells them that they are right! That’s a friendly thing to do.
This even works if you don’t believe the compliment. Saying, “Oh, no, I’m ugly,” when someone compliments your appearance not only tells them that they’re wrong, it makes you think of yourself as ugly. A better answer would be, “Thank you, I really appreciate that and I don’t always believe it, so hearing that from you helps.”
20. Faking confidence usually leads to actually being more confident. I love the phrase fake it till you make it. It’s incredible how much success is a byproduct of just acting confident about whatever you are doing.
21. When married don’t stop treating your significant other like you did when you were trying to win them over, it is a great way to show them you’re still as infatuated with them as you were when you first met.
22. I have a heated throw blanket in my living room in the winter, I wrap my coat up in it, crank up the heat and in a few minutes, my coat is toasty warm so I can brave the coldest day.
23. You can borrow almost all of your textbooks from the library as a college student because of modern book rental agreements most colleges have.
WorldCAT allows you to be linked to almost any library in America, and all you have to do is find your book in the system and fill out a request form at a library and it should be there in a week. I’ve saved probably $2000 doing this in my first two years of college.
24. If you have no complaints about your food service/staff at a restaurant, ask to see the manager and pay a compliment and a “thank you” about the server/host/staff. Usually, people want to see a manager to complain, and a compliment is nearly always welcome.
I’ve gotten countless free drinks/appetizers/chips/% off my bill all for just making a polite comment to management.
25. If you admit you’re wrong and make changes to whatever it is that you’re wrong about, people will respect and appreciate you more.
Unfortunately, this requires the swallow_ego. pill patch installed. Without this, you will be incapable of being a civil person.