--- title: "What harmful things are being taught to children?" url: https://www.kickassfacts.com/what-harmful-things-are-being-taught-to-children/ date: 2020-07-02 modified: 2020-07-02 lang: en author: "jazz" description: "We asked our regular contributors through e-mail What harmful things are being taught to children? We got many interesting responses. Here are some of them. We have just copied and..." categories: - "AskReaders" - "Specials" image: https://www.kickassfacts.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/child-3.jpg word_count: 1346 --- # What harmful things are being taught to children? We asked our regular contributors through e-mail **What harmful things are being taught to children?** We got many interesting responses. Here are some of them. We have just copied and pasted their responses, not editing them in any way. ![](https://www.kickassfacts.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/child-1.jpg) 1. Not owning up to their mistakes or blaming them on others. - jamerstime 2. What to think instead of how to think. - LewsTherinT 3. Being wrong is bad. That's why many people don't change their mind when they were given trustable sources, they don't want to be wrong. - oti890 4. How to internalize stress and implode as teens and adults. - lunakat504 5. In a nasty divorce, the parents may only talk about each other’s bad qualities, and the kid(s) may have an issue/issues with their parents. - some_personn ![](https://www.kickassfacts.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/child-2.jpg) 6. You do not have to play with everyone. There is a total lack of social accountability. If Laura is always cheating at the tag it’s okay to not let her play. If Little Billy throws sand in the sandbox Little Timmy does not have to play with him. Laura and Billy need to learn how to play appropriately. - lethologica5 7. That they shouldn't question an adult. - stayalive102 8. Children do learn about sex at a young age, it just isn’t usually in a productive way. I know I did. My own experience: questions like this are why I believe in being infinitely clear with my kids….” you are going to hear total crap from other kids. If you hear something you don’t understand, come talk to me. You can ask me anything and expect a decent answer.” And I would give examples of the total crap *I* had heard as a kid, most of which would result in pregnancy. Son, age 6. Daughter, age 7. Riding home from school: daughter says “Tiffany said she had sex with my brother.” Which left me a grand total of 3 minutes to gather my wits before we got home. OK, do you guys know what sex is? Blank looks. Sex is when you take off all of your clothes and rub privates together. You can make babies that way. Looks of shock and disgust. Do you think your brother had sex with Tiffany? *Nooo!* I think she was using a really bad way of trying to say she likes him, and maybe she watches the wrong TV shows where if people like each other they always have sex. Were my kids really ready for a sex talk? No, not really. They didn’t care. Did we really need to have one about then? Yep. My job as a parent is to be there to put things that come up in context for them, not run around after them deciding what and when they need to know things. - sushihcare 9. Happened to my son in middle school, a kid punched my son. My son then fought back and pinned the kid against the wall ( he has long arms) and punched him a few times. The school called me and my wife and told us our son was suspended. We went to the school and they said even though multiple witnesses, as well as the kid, said he threw the first punch that the school had a zero-tolerance policy so our son would be suspended. We asked what the school believed our son should have done and they said he should just walk away. We told them that he would not be receiving any punishment at home. - VaDem33 10. No is a 'bad' word. It's a strong word but not a bad one. - NotMyPenguin ![](https://www.kickassfacts.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/child-3.jpg) 11. Nobody cares about children’s/teens issues. “Well, it’s only going to get worse from here”. “You think school is hard? Have you ever paid a bill” “You’re just a kid you can’t feel this way”? It breeds an emotional disconnect from parents and their kids. And makes kids feel alone in their emotional struggles, that nobody cares because they’re not adults and they don’t have “Adult Problems”. - Fantalitymlp 12. "No backtalk." Many adults use it as "you're not allowed to challenge what I have to say." Makes sense if it's a cranky toddler being negative for negativity's sake, but suddenly older children can't question things or raise valid points of their own. - lesoldatrose 13. Kids are starting social media so early these days, and I think that’s very dangerous because it puts a lot of pressure on the kid to attribute their worth to their social media success. I also think parents are way too open with their social media when it comes to their kids, and it’s totally a violation of the child’s privacy, which some parents will never admit. - kay37892 14. To repress their emotions. It will only cause them to bottle them up and accumulate them to the point of exploding in an instant. - eldritch_candy 15. Probably not harmful, but in Kindergarten we were prohibited from playing soccer because it was "too dangerous". We were Kindergarteners. We probably would stand there and kick the ball, not go full-on FIFA or shit. - DarkHelix_ ![](https://www.kickassfacts.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/boy-cry.jpg) 16. Boys don't cry. - chinchuberry 17. Little girls get told all the time that boys are bullying them because they like them. - zevzevi 18. If you have a different opinion than someone, you hate them and that's wrong. - Fifty7Roses 19. You show me respect first because I’m an adult and have authority then I choose whether I should show you respect no other way! - kroke_monster 20. Making children hug or kiss someone (usually a relative) that they are uncomfortable with is not good. The child may just be grumpy and or not wanting to show affection or their warning bell sensors could be going off and they do not know how to communicate that. Plus forcing them to hug/kiss sends mixed messages about personal/physical boundaries and affection itself. - NemoKhongMotAi ![](https://www.kickassfacts.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/child-4.jpg) 21. I personally hate when I hear parents telling their kids white lies to stop them from doing something. - The_Stiffness 22. I would say what's harmful is what's not being taught. - AnimusRandom 23. “She’s younger than you, just let it go.” “Can’t you be more compassionate? Your the older one here in this situation" “ She’s a little child, she doesn’t know any better” Absolutely hate this information that was drilled into me since I was a kid. - christt28 24. Goodwill win, evil will be punished. There is no karma. Some people will do all sorts of shitty stuff, and be successful and happy. Other people will do good and will end up with cancer. - Madrid_Gamer 25. Political views, at ages, that children are really too young to understand them. They just spout off their parent's thoughts. - mokshmoon ![](https://www.kickassfacts.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/child-5.jpg) 26. Doing the right thing will sometimes make others hate you. Be prepared for that. - FloKarle 27. That you can be anything you want in life. Sorry but this just isn't correct. Poor Eddie who can't grasp basic division isn't going to be an astronaut. - Rukawork 28. Being discouraged to speak up about illnesses because it makes them weird/ somethings wrong with them. They talk about like, You need therapy, which isn't a bad concept and you probably do need it, but they picture it in such a bad light. - Gobbler 29. The lie that life is fair and things happen for benevolent, valid reasons. Then we let them get burned and figure it out themselves. - mrstipez 30. Teaching them to respect authority instead of learning to freely question everything. - SirSlipShot